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The who and the what
Who are we?
(Un)relaxeddad lives with supermum, dudelet and dudelette somewhere in South London with two aging, stressed black cats. (Un)relaxeddad’s greatest ambition used to be achieve the nirvana of ‘relaxeddad’ status.
Yeah, right.
I’m interested in being a dad (which is pretty much the starting or ending orientation of everything I write here however tangential), music, the frankly weird dynamics involved in dealing with people (I’m studying organisational behaviour part-time), writing and spirituality in the loosest sense of the word.
Actually, I’m quite keen on the “loose sense” of words.
The Laws of the Universe
Parenting isn’t something we had elders around to mentor us about so we’re just having to muddle along and make it up with the support of smarter friends and contradictory books. So far, we’ve discovered a few basic principles, the most important one of which is:
Don’t disturb the status quo!
No, really. Ever had a baby finally settled down, peacefully drowsing the day away in her pram? But something isn’t quite right - maybe her hats on crooked? You’ll just reach in and straighten it…AarghhhH!!! Yells! Screams! Flung toys and comforters.
Do you know what you did?
You Disturbed The Status Quo.
There are other laws in the universe (it isn’t bribery if they’re too young to add up, for example) but the Law of the Status Quo is definitely the big one.
As to the others, well, we’re open to suggestions.
Other stuff
I don’t moderate comments but if something annoys me, I’ll delete it. What annoys me? Spam, PR people plugging parenting websites, intolerance, bad commercial pop music…My gaff, my rules.
I am so glad that you posted on my blog, so I came over to check you out. I read Boob Juice Factory, too, and I like her posts a lot. I have a son two years in March… so I think I am a year behind you. Looking forward to reading more.
Hey - I think the year between two and three was the most delightful of my life to date - after the sleepless nights and before the real tantrums! Nice to see you.
Unrelaxed Ones- You mentioned you were looking for a bike for Dudelet. Snowflake has a Like A Bike and he’s been riding since he was just under two. There are less expensive brands out there. Target carries one that sells for $49. You would not believe the self confidence it builds! Google ‘wooden bike’ and you may find a good alternative to a LAB.
Hiya! Supermum tells me he’s tried out a couple of those (no pedals, scoots along the ground like an early 19th century bike, right?) and he’s been utterly puzzled. Whereas he just scrambles onto (stabilised) push bikes and tries to pedal. Because they belong to other people who’ve also reached the age of extreme possessiveness, this can cause a little stressful…
Totally off topic (allthough i am a parent) definitely not relaxed.
i was seaching the cyber for an old album that bot ne and my brother used to love listening too , mentioned it on a blog somewhere. it was the ripoofss golden age of rock n roll album, between growing up and six bro’s and sisters it got lost.
i was trying to get hold of 1 track off it called rattlehorn a lovely sax solo as i recall..
i dont suppose you still got the album and could ahem copy or sell or summit. cheeky i know but getting kinda despartate. im from south london too btw.
Yeah, I may well have mentioned that. Unfortunately, whilst the memory remains, the album vanished at some indeterminate point in the past…