Can you really legislate parenting skills out of thin air?

An upcoming speech by the UK’s Education Secretary Alan Johnson seems to think so (Fathers told: do more for your children - EducationGuardian.co.uk and on BBC News), with notions such as ‘Fathers Only’ evenings at schools and an entire ‘parenting strategy’.
On the plus side, he’s at least going to come out and state directly [...]

“Obese boy, 8, faces care order”

This poor kid (icNewcastle - Obese boy, 8, may be taken into care) has been dragged through the tabloids on a number of occasions (and here am I contributing my own humming bird wings’ beat to the whole furore).
The executive summary - 8 year old boy weighs 14.5 stone (roughly 92 kilos), three times the [...]

Six (More)Things You Didn’t Know ABout Me

I’m pretty sure I’ve already done one of these but I got tagged by Tessa over at the Boob Juice Factory. And I secretly love making lists - occupational hazard of being male.
Question is, can I actually manage six more interesting ones?
(Pauses. Scratches head.)
Okay. Here goes.

The less than marvellous band I was in [...]

No Healers, Parents - got that?

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On the London Underground first thing this morning. But what exactly is a ‘healer’?  Johnny Marr’s occasional band?  The hardest working band in Texas? A laying on of hands and crystals and the odd Hopi candle? A dent in your brain chakra?  Or is the Underground overrun by rich [...]

Funeral Part 2 - Catholicism for beginners and advanced practitioners

I did say that this was going to feature a few laughs. I lied. This is a rant.
I’ve left comments turned on as there may be the odd reader who disagrees with the admittedly very personal, subjective experience I’ve put down here. Well, it’s a subjective world and all suffering is relative, [...]

Dudelet’s playlist 6 - Soundgarden vs Dudelet. Dudelet wins

“You can put some music on, Daddy.”
“Thank you.  Do you want to choose it?”
“No” (busy with cereal) “You can do it.”
“OK.” (unrelaxeddad fiddles with kitchen stereo)
“What do you think of this?”
“I like this.  Look - my apple’s dancing.”  Dudelet taps his feet loudly and bounces his apple up and down by its stalk.
“This band is [...]

TRYSUMERS - Empowered consumers and pathetic, humble vendors. Yeah, right.

The Trendwatching site exercises a periodic, gruesome fascination for me.  The latest briefing (com: February 2007 trend briefing | TRYSUMERS) tells us that companies now want us to try out, their products sorry, brands rather than just buy them and that consumers are smart and savvy enough to settle for nothing less.  They don’t just [...]

The Next Behavioural Leap - Imaginary Friends

And when I say friends, I mean friends in the plural.
Dudelet’s at the right age - three - for this kind of development. Some children have imaginary friends who are effectively incarnations of favourite toys. Dudelet has acquired three invisible (except to him) robot companions. They live in a house in our [...]

Guns, children and gangs

This is an ongoing pattern in London (Random violence leaves five dead and locals in fear | Special reports | Guardian Unlimited) that strikes terror into the heart of local parents bringing up a boy.  You’d never know it to look at our nice middle-class area with its delis, new restaurants and rocketing house prices [...]

Funeral, Part 1

Dad’s funeral was on Wednesday and I got back that evening. I went down the day before and stood through a short prayer vigil at the funeral parlour. What I want to reflect on here is not grief or tragedy but the oddity of the whole Catholic way of letting go of the [...]